In 2015, I was faced with a challenge from my team at work: why were the resources we offered to leaders most connecting with men? Where were the women who lead? I was fairly neck-deep in conversations about ministry to women as Gather Women was being birthed, and this was a really fair question.
The reality was, I wasn’t even reading the books and resources we were offering to leaders, and I was the leader of this whole thing. Yeah. That’s a fairly significant disconnect.
So, I started to consider what I was reading, as a leader. While I do have a good number of “leadership” books on my shelf, at this stage in my journey I’m more drawn to resources that encourage and inspire the heart and soul of my leadership, rather than how to make my workweek shorter (although that wouldn’t hurt.)
For whatever reason, I thought they weren’t “leadership” enough to share with others. That, in some way, my lack of heavy leadership books (which mostly bored me) disqualified me as a leader. I was comparing my feminine leadership to that of male leaders 20 years my senior, and coming up seriously lacking. As my friend Leanne might say, I “lead like a girl” and I had to come to the realization that it was absolutely appropriate for me to do so because I AM A GIRL. Shocking, right? (I can be a bit obtuse sometimes)
Fortunately, my team challenged me on my misconceptions. My current reality means that I’m leading a team, connecting with leaders, making a home, doing school drop-offs and pick-ups, and spending more time reminding a four year-old that she needs to wash her hands after going to the potty than reading “serious” books. Right now, my heart needs care more than my mind needs information because it’s about to burst at the seams.
Seems like others are in the same place as me. I started picking books and inviting women to join me in reading them. It’s been a challenging discipline for me, but also fun to connect with other leaders in this way. Instead of feeling like I wasn’t a legitimate leader because I actually like fiction, I found my people. Leaders like me who needed soul-nurture.
[bctt tweet=”“No woman is well-served when we transform her into a plaster saint.” – Ruth Tucker” username=”@AcornInsight”]This month, my pick is an interesting blend of history and compelling narrative. It seems fitting to choose International Women’s Day to announce our brand-new pick. Over the next 6 weeks or so, we’ll be reading Extraordinary Women of Christian History by Ruth A. Tucker. What can I say? I like a party. This book is basically a party of matriarchs, in a religion that has often been criticized as patriarchal. And there are a lot of them in this book, from the obscure Mary of Egypt to the well-known Mother Teresa, and their stories are told with a dash of irreverence, which I love. There’s scandal and sainthood on these pages, and it’s a bit startling.
This year, perhaps my contribution to the International Women’s Day conversation can be this: let’s stop looking at who we think we should be, as leaders, and embrace our unique makeup. In our own corners of the world, wherever we are, we are those extraordinary women for the next generation.
PS – For my friends who have wanted to read along with our Ellen’s Picks community, I’ll now be sharing our picks with you when they’re released. You can grab your own copy here and check out my recommended resources if you want to catch up on any of the previous titles!
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Thank you for sharing this! I have been involved in leadership in women’s ministry for years. My last part in leadership was a year ago… it ended when the church we attend eliminated both men’s & women’s ministry. I have had to look at how I am a leader in a new way too… my heart & passion is for women & seeing them set free. I am still figuring it out as I go. God is showing me that I can lead one woman at a time if that is what it takes.
I also understand your statement about your heart needed care more than information… I totally get that! Thanks again for sharing your heart! Blessings, Carin
So glad that this resonated with you – and that you’ve chosen to step into your calling as a leader! It looks different for each one of us! Blessings on you!
“let’s stop looking at who we think we should be, as leaders, and embrace our unique makeup”.!!! AMEN to that, this is such a good post from beginning to end. I love your title too – lead like a girl! I can relate to you in many ways, although my kids are grown and I am out of that stage of life where I was carpooling and constantly going here or there with my kids. I always ran from leadership positions, even though it is something I know I am called to, mostly becasue I was comparing to the male counterparts.. This year in our women’s ministry, I have been challenging the women to not only embrace their princess side, but that they are called to be warriors too. We need an even balance of both. I so appreciate your words, and Love this book recommendation. I am placing it at the top of my must read list! I found you at #CoffeeForYourHeart today. Happy International Women’s Day too.
Also, I would love if you would consider linking up to my NEW Thursday Party #TuneInThursday it stays open until Sunday. You can find it here: http://debbiekitterman.com/blog/
Thank you, Debbie! Absolutely – I look at my daughter as a compassionate warrior – and she really is! Hope you enjoy the book. Thanks for sharing about your linkup as well!
Thanks Ellen. Looking forward to this!
You’re welcome! I am so inspired by your leadership and entrepreneurship and creativity! 🙂